How to Tackle Inner Conflict
At times, we all sense irritation, frustration, or anger bubbling up within us. If we examine these feelings closely, we often find that we’re battling in our consciousness with one of three things: another person, the past, or ourselves.
When we feel anger, it usually targets something that has already happened. We react emotionally to past events, wishing we could change them, even though it’s impossible. Whether an incident occurred a year ago, a month ago, or even a second ago, it remains unchangeable. Yet, we hold onto the subconscious belief that the world and its circumstances should align perfectly with our desires.
This belief shapes our reactions. When our internal expectations are unmet—when reality deviates from our desires—our immediate response is often anger. We might try to rewrite the past in our minds, imagining different words or actions that would have suited us better. This mental exercise is akin to fighting a war with the past. We replay incidents repeatedly, seeking a version that aligns with our wishes, and rejecting the reality of what occurred.
This internal struggle is futile, yet common. By replaying and revising past incidents, we remain stuck in a cycle of non-acceptance. We waste mental energy fighting an unchangeable past, knowing deep down that this effort is in vain.
To break free from this cycle, we need to recognize and release our subconscious belief that the world should conform to our desires. Acceptance is key. Embracing the reality of past events allows us to move forward without the weight of unresolved anger. Instead of waging a war within, we can cultivate peace by accepting the past and focusing on the present moment. This shift in perspective can transform our inner conflict into inner harmony.
